Koay's Love Language #16.

One day while stuck in a non-moving traffic jam, he received a Whatsapp message.

Him: *opens the message, click download the voice message and hears them out loud*

Me: *looks at his serious face, thinking confirm this is about work so no disturb*

Him: Yeah, okay. Sounds good la actually. *while still listening to the long voice message*

Me:  *looks at him with both my eyebrows raised and burst out laughing so loud that he terkejut*

Him: What? Why you suddenly laugh? *the voice message ended while I was laughing*

Me:  WHY DID YOU TALK TO THE VOICE MESSAGE? YOU KNOW IT'S NOT A LIVE PHONE CALL RIGHT? YOU KNOW IT'S RECORDED RIGHT?

Him: *looks at me then at his phone* OH SHIT. *embarrassed to the max*

Me: You're so noob wei! I thought you work so much till crazy already for a split second. You answered to a recorded voice message. Just know this okay, that this I will forever remember. Heh.

Him: G!

Me: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

That was one of the day when traffic jams didn't feel like a torture. We laughed for so long and even after we got home, we would still be laughing on it. My huz-to-be is a noob. 

Wedding Update 5.

Oh hello there.

Let's see when is the last time I updated anything on this.

Oh okay. Not that too long ago it seems. Pretty fine with me :) To make your life easier, nah. 

I just realized the the countdown bar on the side is not helping at all. It's giving me all the anxieties that I do not want to feel, not at this point of time. 

Okay okay let's not get distracted now. So many things to update for this one.

WEDDING DATE

If by now we still haven't confirm this one, we should both be crying now. Our Save the Date should be going out real soon :)

WEDDING VENUE

We struggled for few months trying to get a good place to hold our wedding ceremony that can fit at least 100 people, but all the nice places can only fit up to 60 people. So, as painful as it was to make this decision, we have finally agreed to do it in church. 

As for the wedding dinner, we had also confirmed it by paying our first deposit on earlier this month. 

WEDDING DINNER MUSIC BAND

He is a very big fan of Jazzhats so of course we went on to ask for their quotation and they came back with RM6,000! SO SAD OKAY!

This is a lot of money so pending la. 

HONEYMOON

Yes, if you have read the previous post, you would know that this one is a tick in our non-existing checklist. Heh. 

WE ARE GOING TO INDONESIA! APA KHABAR?

Specifically, to Bali and Lombok. Bali comes top on honeymoon destinations in Google so okay okay then. Lombok ah? To be honest, it was my first time hearing the word Lombok when he suggested the second place for honeymoon. 

I was like, "Whatttt? Where is that?"

Apparently, it is becoming more famous of a destination so okay for me too! The Lombok part we have yet to confirm any hotel or activities (do we actually need outside activities? HEH!) because that's his part to handle already. 

We haven't got the air-tickets to Bali yet because I believe there will be some kind of promotion coming up soon so we will just wait on that.

PRE-WEDDING PHOTOSHOOT

I am so happy that this one is a done deal. I have been scratching my head to make a decision of whether hiring a freelance photographer or get a package from a bridal place.

Of course I went with the package deal. Ain't nobody got the time to rent dress(es) for both the photoshoot and wedding or come out with ideas on where to do all these photoshoots. I am not hyped enough to do all this research. Also, makeup artists all how. G!

I may be the laziest bride-to-be in the entire universe.

This one I will share more in details on my next Wedding Update!

BACHELOR PARTY

His friends has got that sorted out for him and it's happening sooner than expected. No, not in March. SOONER! Keep in mind they had just planned this not too long ago. 

End of this month okay. If this doesn't freak Koay out, it is freaking me out. Everything is happening too fast. I think once he goes for this bachelor party, the getting-married-feel will kick in already! 

Oh and this is no regular bachelor party because THEY ARE GOING TO BANGKOK! So nice okay. Probably wild and all but I trust Koay that he won't do anything 'too much' for me to handle. Heh. 

GOWNS/TUXEDOS

This was one of our biggest concern. Believe it or not, we are both not that vain but still, we want to make sure we both look amazing that morning/night. Isn't that one of the main concern for all bride and groom-to-be? 

If you say no, you are obviously lying! Heh. 

One of the perks of taking a bridal package is that there will be wedding gowns and a few set of tuxedos included already. So, that's another win!

WEDDING RING

G!

Another item that is going to be costly. GG. Nope, not confirmed yet. We will be looking into this soon enough.

GUEST LIST

Biggest headache of the entire event! BIGGEST. Kid you not. 

Our problem now is having too long of a guest list. Our venue cannot cater to so many people leh. Now headache is this. We are afraid of offending people if we don't invite them and I believe that this has always been a concern for all couples-to-wed.

If money isn't an issue, we would have our wedding dinner at Straits Quay Convention Hall where they can cater up to 200 tables or something. 

So people please. Spare us this part. Don't get angry with us okay. We would really love to have all of you to attend the wedding and celebrate with us but we really don't want to go into this marriage full of debt just to please everyone :)

This one obviously not done because there are still so many people adding to the list and we're just pretty overwhelmed right now, to make any of this kind of decisions. Soon to be confirmed though. 

WEDDING THEME/COLOR

This was one of the exciting things that we had gone through. Yes, we have the colors of our wedding already and all thanks to our very-gifted-amazing Designer. None other than Le Roy :)

WEDDING CARDS

Seriously, we worry not at all because we trust completely on Le Roy and his amazing works. 

DECORATIONS

This one also we no worry at all! The best person to do this for us is obviously Uncle Phillip Khoo! Nothing is impossible with this man. So, anything can go wrong on the real day, but its okay because we've got Uncle Phillip! :)

There you have it. Bits and pieces of this event. Ahhh, still so much things to decide on, but we will have fun on it because this is going to be one of the biggest event of our lives. 

Peace out yo. 

3D2N Cititel Midvalley, Kuala Lumpur.

I almost forgot about this post okay.

Oh myy. 

Okay, here goes. 

No need to say also you will know that when it comes to the mad city, there are so many parts of KL that has so many hotels all around that you will probably need to do a lot of reading up reviews and google for photos to see if they looked like what they claim to be on their website. 

First, you will need to know which area you wanna to be generally at, most of the time. There's Puchong, Cyberjaya, KL City, Sunway and the list goes on. I'm not from KL so I cannot tell you more on the locations and what-nots. 

Being in KL for so many times already, most of the time for shopping and quick getaway, I have already known what are the 2 top favorites of mine. 

The Capri by Fraser and The Signature Serviced Suites & Studios.

In a heartbeat I will always search them up in Agoda and Expedia and if (only if) the rooms are fully booked or the prices are really high, I will opt for others. 

This time, I stayed at Cititel Midvalley. 

It's no surprise why this hotel is picked. It's located right next to one of the most visited shopping mall in KL, so come on. No need to spend money on Uber can go shopping all-day err-day. 

I think most people on business trips would prefer to stay at this hotel because it's so centralized (again depending on where your business trip takes you) and when you finish work, you can just walk to Midvalley Megamall for dinner and shopping. Best of all worlds indeed okay. 

The room is not a big room so please don't put high expectations. Heh. If not, when you go in, you sure disappointed to the max. Hah. It's surprisingly not too small either. It's bigger than the boutique hotel I stayed at in Malacca. Estadia Hotel its called. 

Click here to go see how small that room is, but it was very comfortable okay. 

Back to this.

So yes, I think it's a very convenient hotel to stay at if you're planning a trip to KL for a short shopping/eating weekend. 

Here's to more staycation soooon!

28.

What is so important that I am sacrificing my sleep to write this?

It's my birthday that's why! Heh. Tebal punya muka ni. 

To be honest, since I turned twenty-five (yes, I'm going to be honest about my age just this once!
 Heh), three years ago, I became very reluctant to celebrate birthdays, particularly my own. I don't look forward to it. I don't feel it, the excitement and all sorts. 

I really don't know if this is part of growing up and everyone that is at my age or older have went through it or are still going through it, but yeah I am feeling it. 

This year however, despite all the 'negative-energy' from every part of my body, I have decided to organize my first ever birthday party. No, I am obviously not turning one. I would be the world's genius if I am writing all this, being a one-year old girl. Hah. 

Never have I ever have a birthday party. 

Heh. 

I thought that before I am called by another last name, I should have a birthday party for myself and I am sorry if you are not invited because budget is a concern so only a handful of people are going to be a part of this. 

Gosh never thought it would be this mentally tiring to convince myself to go ahead with the whole thing because I actually really don't want to have it in the first place, but then I also want one before I kahwin. So how. 

I actually don't want to do anything extraordinary on my birthday and don't want to make it an event also. What have gotten into my brain seriously?

Regret also pointless already. Hah.

Turning twenty-eight makes me realize one important thing. 

I've always find it really fulfilling when I grow stronger mentally and emotionally, and I have always known that it is always most effective through difficult moments, especially heartbreaks. 

I have had a handful of heartbreaks since last year's birthday and it's crazy for me to 'assumed' that through all those painful times, times when simple/easy expectations were not met, that with time I get stronger. 

NONSENSE.

I realized today that I did not get stronger. Maybe 40% I was able to control what I say or how I react to it, but the other 60%?

I would say that it was slowly turning into bitterness, silent anger and ignorance. All these three buddies decided to build up a box somewhere inside the heart and hide in there for as long as they could. 

It was only tonight that as I spend time with God, He reveals all of those. 

Did I really get emotionally better/stronger by letting time go by and pretend that all will be okay again? Or the fact that it is okay if sometimes you swallow it and keep telling yourself it's okay?

No.

Not at all. 

Only God could give us that strength to be emotionally leveled-up. 

You can go through nonsense moments and you may think that it's all okay already since it's not stirring you easily anymore. Wrong. You are in fact one level down because you WILL have an extra room for bitterness and you would not even know it. That bitterness will indirectly control of the way you talk to a particular someone, makes a certain kind of decision and the kind of person you slowly turn into.

Unless you pray and you ask God to help you.

If you don't, you are not going to level up. 

Tonight, I did just that. Tonight, He came down and rescued me. I think I was literally drowning inside of myself. Phew, boy did that felt good. 

Thank You Jesus. 

Oh, and know this one thing. Humans will fail you, confirm they will fail you but God will never fail you. Knowing and understanding the fact that humans will fail you, will makes you realize that you should always put a reasonable expectations on one another because healthy expectations drive people. Heh. At least it drives me. 

Well, here's to a great twenty-eighth birthday for me :)

Here's a song that helped me through. Listen to it okay?

Pre-CNY Feel.

ONE HOUR TO A LONG WEEK AHEAD!

Yes, I am counting down. As tired (mentally) as I feel right now, I still have extra energy stored inside somewhere for party tonight yo!

I feel like this CNY will feel like this for one last time for me that is. Next year it will feel completely different I bet. Obviously for now I am loving the angpow collecting and all, but I feel giving angpows could be very fulfilling also. I don't know. For now, I need to collect as many angpows as I can. 

Also because my birthday is coming also maybe that's why I'm feeling everything in. Hmm. This year's birthday also feels really different. I remembered I didn't feel like celebrating last year because I felt so.. old? 

I don't know if that is the perfect word to use, but yeah. 

This year however, feels like I have to go all out because it's my last year of being single? Okay, not really single, but just not like legally attached with someone. You know what I mean? Like my last name is still Khoo. Oh wait, it will always be a Khoo. Heh. 

It's not like I feel after tying that knot means like everything won't be as nice but its just that feeling of going into something really new. 

It's like relocating to a new country for good. New place, new culture, new bedroom and new sleeping partner. Not that I have a sleeping partner now or whatsoever. Basically, I feel my life will change and I am looking forward to it no doubt about that. 

I guess the few months left with no preparation (G!) is giving me all the reasons to do big on any events before I sign the paper. That explains why I am feeling so broke right now. Hah. Oh well. 

Back to Chinese New Year feel. Although I hope for a fun season, so far it feels nothing like that, yet. I didn't even buy clothes till the final week and through Zalora. That was how desperate and moodless I was to get into the season. 

Now that it's just minutes away, I AM FEELING IT OF COURSE. 

So here I am wishing all of you a great Chinese New Year with people you love! Go and collect/give all the angpows in the world yo!

Koay's Love Language #15.

One Step.

A STATE OF MENTAL OR EMOTIONAL STRAIN OR TENSION RESULTING FROM ADVERSE OR VERY DEMANDING CIRCUMSTANCES.

definition of stress

Yes, I have been under a lot of this lately. So much that sometimes I use more energy to hold the tears back into the eye-socket than the energy used to play captain ball on Sunday. Heh. 

I am not liking this part of the new role, but it is good for me. I am learning so much on a fast speed and I know for sure there is a reason behind all this. After all, I have got the Big Man on my side at all times.

I will get through this. 

Anyways, huz-to-be is not physically here for the next five days but his words are always the most encouraging yet. No need long-long essay okay. When he writes more than two sentences, that's like super good already. Okay, wait. He did write TWO times on the proposed plan. Heh. Well, I guess the expectation is going higher then. 

Turns out all I needed to hear was, one step at a time. 

I have probably said that a thousand times today in the span of nine hours. Oh well. 

He always knows what to say text. 1 bonus point for you, huz-to-be. Now, go kick some behinds at the tournament! 

Four days left for a long holiday. Yesssss.